What is this thing called success, and how do you attain it?

What does success look like to you?

When asked this question, many of us might point to someone else and say that he or she is successful; however, we may be judging success by observing only one dimension of this person's life. In selecting interview candidates for my books on success, my first criterion was that the interviewees needed to be successful in their own minds.

Most of the people I interviewed for my books are businesspersons. Although they all have attained success in their careers, they agree that a successful career is not the only component of a successful life. They are confident that they would be successful in any career they might have chosen and are happy with the person they are and what they're doing.

Defining Success

How do you personally define success?

When I have asked this question of those I have interviewed, I have received different answers from each of them. Following are some of the responses:

• Success is a feeling of accomplishment and fulfillment.
• Success is being able to look at the person in the mirror every morning and feel good that you are achieving what you set out to achieve and done so in an honorable way.
• Success is positive contribution to self, society, and the environment.
• Success is a feeling of continually moving forward but the ability to be happy standing still.
• Success is feeling happy each day.
• Success is the achievement of goals that are important to me.
• Success is a balance in personal and professional life.
• Success is living comfortably with who you are and what you have.
• Success is not only having a fulfilling career where I know I am making a difference, but it's also having time to pursue outside interests.
• Success is having peace of mind, free from unnecessary concern over the future and being able to dwell in the now moment.
• Success is when both my work and my personal life are fulfilling.
• Success is being known as a person with values and integrity.
• Success is a mental, physical, emotional, and spiritual balance in one's life.
• Business success is achieving a position in a profession the individual enjoys.
• Success is maintaining personally acceptable levels of progress toward identifiable personal goals.
• If I can positively touch one person, plant a seed, or do a good act, each day, then that day is successful.
• Success is the quiet peace of knowing I did my absolute best.
• Success is enjoying each day.
• Success is achieving one's full potential.

Becoming Successful

I truly believe that each of us has the potential to achieve greatness. To do this, you first need to believe in yourself.

When I was fourteen years old, my goal was to be a computer programmer, even though this was not a common field for women at that time. I believed that I could do this. Although I took some detours along the way, I became a computer programmer. Later, after I had designed computer systems for marketing and sales, I decided that I wanted to combine my computer experience with marketing to enhance the effectiveness of marketing and sales. This led to the management of functions that did not exist before I became involved in them, including an international marketing management position with offices in Paris and Brussels. All along, I knew that I could do it. And I did!

Once you have defined what success looks like for you, the next step is to visualize that success. Remember to visualize the result of this success as if it has already happened.

Be aware of your priorities in life, and set your goals and act according to these priorities. Be sure that your priorities are aligned with your values and your definition of success. The more you act according to your priorities, the more likely it will be that you will enjoy success.

Take time to focus on those things that are most important to you. You may need to practice focusing exercises in order to increase your ability to focus.

Evaluate your attitude each day, and stay away from the three C's - complaining, criticizing, and condemning. The more positive your attitude, the more you will attract that which is positive into your life.

Personal integrity is tantamount to success. Before making a commitment, be sure that you will keep it. Let your word be your bond.

Create balance in your life. Take time to be spontaneous and to have fun. We are meant to enjoy life.

Take advantage of every opportunity to learn. Before going to bed each night, think about the things that you have learned that day and the ways you will apply these things in creating your ideal life and in enriching the lives of others.

More information on each of the above success principles is contained in my previous blog posts.

So how do you define success? And how do you assure you are successful according to your definition?

Making Time to Learn

In watching each of my grandchildren, I am often amazed how much they learn in a short amount of time. What’s the difference between the way they learn and how I learn?

• Do they have a greater need or a greater desire? I don’t think that’s the case.
• Do I procrastinate more? Perhaps, I do.
• Do I have more things on my “to do” list? Definitely!

However, I know that the more I commit to myself to learning, the more I am able to achieve and exceed my objectives in life.

What are some of the things you do to incorporate learning into your life? Following are nine suggestions:

Obtain a formal education.
In addition to being an excellent opportunity to learn, formal education opens doors. If your work experience is limited, a formal education is a way to let prospective employers and clients know that you can persevere, meet objectives, and succeed.

Attend seminars and workshops.
Each day, thousands of seminars, workshops, and conferences are offered in various locations around the world. Many of these are related to particular professions, and others provide personal growth and development. Some of them are free of charge, such as workshops offered by some church groups and non-profit organizations.

Be selective when determining which seminars, workshops, and conferences to attend. Because of the number of these types of learning opportunities available, make sure that the ones you attend are the ones that will be the most beneficial, either professionally or personally.

Read books, magazines, newspapers, and information available on the Internet.
A wealth of information on myriad subjects is available in print and via the Internet. One of the great things about learning from these sources is that you can engage in this type of learning from almost anyplace, including in the comfort of your own home.

My advice in selecting reading material is the same as that for selecting conferences and workshops. Because of the quantity of books, magazines, and newspapers available, we need to be selective. This applies to the reading we do for enjoyment, as well as the reading that we do in order to learn. It is unrealistic and counterproductive to attempt to read everything that comes into our homes or offices. Attempting to do so becomes overwhelming and can cause one to neglect priorities.

Enhance your listening skills.
Listening to the spoken word is another way that we can learn. By listening to that which is happening around us, we learn so much more than we do when we are speaking. A mother learns to identify her baby's needs by listening to the baby's different cries. A child learns to stay away from danger by listening to his or her mother's warnings. A factory worker learns to perform her job responsibilities by listening to her foreperson's instructions. We all learn by listening to those who know more about a subject than we do.

By spending more time listening and less time talking, we create learning opportunities that will increase our effectiveness and, ultimately, our success.

Listen to recorded media.
We are living in a time of convenience with the many classes, seminars, and books that are available on recorded media. If you have a media player in your car, you are able to make your driving time more productive by listening to this media. An alternative to purchasing the media is to check it out at the local library or to exchange any media you have with others.

If your only venue for listening to recorded media is your car, it is advisable to listen to the same material several times (five or six times) to maximize your learning opportunity. Certainly, if you listen to a recording for the first time while driving, you might want to also make time available to listen to it a second time when you can give it your full attention and take notes. You can then use these notes as you develop your learning plan.

Learn from life's experiences.
When my daughter was a teenager, I felt that I was constantly protecting and correcting her. When I realized that she resented this, I told her that I had made many mistakes in my life and that I would like to help her to learn from my mistakes. I thought that this would protect her from experiencing some of the pain I had felt as a result of these mistakes. Her answer surprised me when she said, "Mom, don't you think I will learn more from my own mistakes than I will learn from yours?" As much as I disliked the idea of my child experiencing pain, I realized she was right. We can learn from the experiences of others, but we learn even more from our own experiences, both positive and negative.

Challenge yourself with new experiences.
Each of us has the opportunity to learn by challenging ourselves with new experiences. Start by making a list of areas in your life that you want to strengthen. From this, you can do some brainstorming regarding the things you might do in order to develop the new strength you desire.

Work with a personal and/or professional coach or mentor.
There are thousands of professional coaches available to assist individuals in learning how to create success in their lives. People hire coaches for many reasons, including the following:

• To set better goals
• To make significant changes
• To make better decisions
• To make a bigger impact on the world
• To increase income or revenues
• To become a better businessperson

A coach or a mentor can be a valuable asset to you as you develop your learning plan and take action to create success in your life.

Develop a personal learning plan. Do you have a personal learning plan? If not, you are not alone, as most people do not take the time to develop such plans. As a result, many people participate in learning activities that do not align with their top priorities and goals.

A personal learning plan need not be elaborate; nor does it need to take a long time to develop. Start by reviewing your priorities and goals and determining what it is that you need to know in order to achieve what you want in life. From there, you can decide the best methods for learning that which you need and/or want to know.

Continuous, lifelong learning is important to success. Albert Einstein once said, "Education is that which remains when one has forgotten everything he learned in school."

Do you have a personal learning plan? Have you determined how you might learn the things you need to know for maximizing your success?

Smelling the Roses

When I received the job offer for my European assignment at 3M, my husband and I were both excited about the opportunity ahead of us. Long before we left the United States, I developed goals and objectives for the European job. I wanted to make sure that my accomplishments were significant during the two years that I would be there and didn't give much thought to the wonderful adventures that would be available.

After I had been in Europe for two weeks, I sent a status report through electronic mail to my United States human resource manager. I will always cherish his response. He started by complimenting me on what I had already accomplished in the two weeks that I had been in Europe. He then added some advice by saying, "You will be given a lot of vacation time while you are on your European assignment. Be sure you take this time, and make it a point to see as much of Europe as you can. There are too many people who return from expatriate assignments, never having taken advantage of the opportunity to explore the areas where they have lived. Many will remark, 'I worked so hard that I missed the party.' Enjoy the party while you are there!"

I am grateful that this advice came very early during my European assignment. It allowed me to rethink my priorities and make the adjustments necessary to "enjoy the party" while still making the significant impact that I had planned. In fact, I think that the reason I was able to exceed my job objectives was due in part to the enjoyment of the adventures I experienced. Since my husband was retired, he was able to travel with me on many of my business trips. I would plan meetings in London for Fridays and Mondays, so that we would be there for the weekend to spend time with friends, visit museums, and go to the theatre. When we weren't in London or sightseeing in France, we would take short weekend trips to Germany, the Netherlands, and Belgium. We cruised the Mediterranean and Black Seas and took vacations in Italy, Spain, and Portugal. We also entertained many friends who visited us in France, and we enjoyed every minute of it. The added bonus was that I was able to exceed my objectives for the job assignment and to enjoy my work even more than I had anticipated.

Are you taking time to enjoy the moment and bring pleasure into your life? You might start by answering the following questions:

• Do I regularly take time for myself?
• Do I enjoy the company of special people?
• Do I enjoy the social events I attend?
• Do I live my priorities?
• Is my work challenging and fulfilling?
• Do I engage in recreational activities?
• Do I have at least one hobby?
• Do I take care of my health and have regular checkups?
• Do I exercise regularly?
• Do I give to others?
• Am I a grateful receiver?
• Do I have a way to relax that eliminates stress?
• Do I feel energized at the end of most work days?

If you have answered "yes" to all of these questions, congratulations! Otherwise, the following suggestions may be of help:

Be in the present.

A colleague once said, "Being fully in the present is a gift. It is a gift to yourself as well as to others. You literally create your future with your thoughts and actions. When you are fully in the present, you are totally involved and alert to opportunities. The people you encounter subjectively sense whether or not you are fully with them. This has a great impact on the quality of your personal and business relationships."

Enjoy your work.

Are you working at a job that you love? If not, is there any possibility that you can make a change? A change does not necessarily mean a totally different job. It could mean adding or subtracting something from your current job in order to make it more enjoyable.

Take time for yourself.

Do you take time for yourself? When is the last time you went for a walk in the park and enjoyed nature? Enjoyed a bubble bath? Had lunch with a friend? Read a book? If you had an entire day to do something spontaneous, what would it be? Why not do it now?

Give to others.

Have you ever noticed how good you feel when you give to someone else? Some people wait to give until they can afford to buy an extravagant gift. This is not necessary, as it is usually the non-material gifts that the receiver values most. This can be as simple as a smile or a compliment. It can be the simple gift of showing someone that you care by giving him or her your attention. It can be taking the time to tell someone that you appreciate him or her. Although these gifts do not cost anything, they can be the most precious to both the receiver and the giver.

Engage in recreational activities.

The word recreation contains the root word create, which means "to cause to exist." By preceding this word with the prefix re, which means "again" or "anew," we are saying that we are causing a new existence of ourselves. We are refreshing our lives, both mentally and physically.

Express and feel gratitude.

Part of expressing gratitude is becoming a gracious receiver. Many people think that they should always be the giver, rather than the receiver; hence they have difficulty in accepting that which is given to them. Many have told me that they think they are not worthy or deserving.

Dr. Deepak Chopra suggests that we gratefully receive all the gifts that life has to offer us. These gifts include gifts of nature, such as sunlight, the sounds of singing birds, spring showers, and the beauty of the first snow of winter. They also include gifts from others, both material and non-material.

Stopping to "smell the roses" is more than a cliché. It points out the importance of appreciating beauty, human relationships, and the things that are most important to us. It offers the opportunity to reflect, to decrease stress, and to add balance to our lives. This not only contributes to, but also enhances any success we may achieve.

My wish for you is that you seize the joy of the day, savor each moment as special, and appreciate the beauty of life!

Does integrity mean just telling the truth?

When I was in my early thirties, I decided to take up the game of golf. During my first year on the golf course, my scores were sometimes almost twice as high as those of some of my playing partners. Since I was the ultimate perfectionist, this was extremely embarrassing to me. As we called out our scores after each hole, I would be tempted to lower my score by one or two points so that it wouldn't sound quite as bad as it was. A tempting voice inside me would say, "Make up a number. They probably can't count that high anyway." I would think about it and finally answer the voice, saying, "But I would know it, and I am the one who has to live with myself."

What does integrity mean to you? In the case of my golf score, I considered integrity to be an honesty issue. Although honesty contributes to integrity, there are more aspects to integrity than just telling the truth. Integrity is unique for each of us.

As you are thinking about your level of integrity, ask yourself the following questions:

• Do I tell the truth?
• Is my word my bond?
• Do my promises have value?
• Do I do what I say I am going to do?
• Am I committed to commitment?

According to the late Thomas Leonard, founder of Coach University, integrity is the result of having the following three conditions in one's life:

• Resolution of all important matters This includes the correction of any wrongs, making any personal changes necessary to ensure one's life works well, and fully handling every task and job that one decides to do.
• Alignment and balance in life Alignment, in this case, means that our goals are aligned with our values and priorities, our actions are based on what is true for us, and our commitments are aligned with our vision or purpose in life.
• Responsibility In speaking about integrity, the word "responsibility" means being responsible for that which occurs in one's life. This includes handling whatever happens and making necessary adjustments to prevent this type of problem in the future. Thomas Leonard said that responsible people do not blame, complain, or point fingers at other people. They just handle the situation. I agree.

The following exercise will help you to work on and increase your personal integrity:

Make a list of the ways that your life is currently "in integrity." Pat yourself on the back, because you are on your way to success as you strengthen your personal integrity.

Make a list of the ways that you are not now "in integrity." In addition to thinking about honesty, ask yourself questions like the following:

• Do I pay my bills on time?
• Do I do what I say I will do? (For example, if you tell someone that you will call him or her, do you make that call?)
• Do I meet my time commitments?
• Am I working at the right job for me?
• Am I associating with people who are uplifting and positive?

Analyze the source of each item on your list from number 2 above. If these items are important to you, be sure to resolve all of them before moving to the next step. You might start by listing the consequences that result from each of them. Then write the changes you would need to make in order to eliminate the consequences and bring integrity to these parts of your life.

Make a commitment to start living a life of integrity, as you define it. Your integrity is unique to you, and you are the one who will decide what it means for you. You need to commit to commitment.

Let go of at least ten "shoulds," "coulds," "oughts," and "wills." In doing this, realize that it is impossible to be all things to all people.

Involve a coach or another strong person to help you. Find an individual who is interested in partnering with you to help you to improve your personal integrity. This should be someone who truly cares about your well-being, wants the best for you, and is willing to tell you the truth.

Stop spending time with people who are not the best role models. You know who these people are. Concentrate on spending your time with those people who are uplifting and from whom you receive the gift of positive energy.

Develop a realistic action plan for improving your personal integrity. Keep this action plan simple. Include elements that you can actually do, rather than things that might occur.

Personal integrity is a personal choice. The benefits of living in integrity are numerous. As people increase their level of integrity, they begin to become aware of the following in their life:

• More energy
• An effortlessness feeling about achieving the results they want
• Much less stress
• The attraction of more fulfilling people who are consistently reliable, empowering, loving, and inspiring
• A richer and more successful life

In Golden Nuggets, Sir John Templeton says, "Probably the greatest secret to peace of mind is living the life of personal integrity - not what people think of you, but what you know of yourself. If you remain true to your ethical principles, your personal integrity can become an attractive beacon for success on every level. Listen carefully to the inner promptings of conscience and live peacefully."

When I interviewed people for my books on success, I asked them to rate each of my success principles on a scale of 1 to 5, depending on how critical the principle was to their success. They all rated integrity as a “5.”

Personal integrity is of utmost importance to success. It is your personal foundation on which you can build the person you want to be.

What does integrity mean to you?

How to Control Your Destiny though Your Attitude

At a meeting several years ago, I met a woman who was a champion at making lemonade whenever life dealt her lemons. I had never before known anyone with an attitude as positive as hers. At the beginning of the meeting, we introduced ourselves and shared our reasons for participation in this series of meetings.

This particular woman had recently moved to Minnesota from Washington, D.C. Her position in Washington had been eliminated. She said that, even though she had enjoyed her job there, losing it was a wonderful opportunity to look at other positions and to determine what she would like to do next. She found a position in Minnesota and rented an apartment about 25 miles from the office where she worked. She even talked about how fantastic it was to have an hour-long commute to and from her new job, as she was able to see much of the city and to listen to motivating tapes while she was driving.

Others who heard her told me later that they didn't think she was "for real." As I got to know her, though, I realized that she was truly genuine. As others in the group began to know her, they began to strive to be more like her. They recognized that she was attracting positive people and things into her life through her attitude.

Later, when I was hiring people for a new department, this woman was one of the first people I hired. Her attitude and enthusiasm were contagious, and she contributed significantly to the success of this department.

In conducting research for my e-book, Success without Struggle: How to Control Your Destiny through Your Attitude, I found that the following practices actually made people more positive and contributed to better outcomes in their lives:

As Dale Carnegie taught so many years ago, refrain from the three Cs: complaining, criticizing, and condemning. They rob our time and also drag us down into a spiral of negativity. The messages they send to the subconscious mind inhibit our success. By eliminating complaining, criticizing, and condemning, we become more positive. On the mental level, positive attracts positive, and negative attracts negative. Positive thoughts help attract more positive experiences into our lives. This begins an upward spiral. As we begin to see things in a more positive way, we become more positive. As we become more positive, we increase our potential for success.

Eliminate worry from your life. Just as most successful people do not waste time complaining, criticizing and condemning, they also do not waste time worrying. They realize that worry not only generates negative energy, but it also does not make the source of the worry any better.

Shortly after I met my husband, Cliff, he had a heart attack. Afterward, I lived in constant fear that he would have another one. When I didn't hear from him at the beginning of the day, it would affect my thoughts on other things. Of course, Cliff sensed my anxiety, and this did not enhance our relationship. When I finally decided to stop worrying, our relationship blossomed, my mind became more clear for positive thoughts, I became more productive, people noticed my more positive attitude, and I was promoted at work. I learned that I could care, but that did not mean that I needed to worry.

Many of us have serious concerns, such as life-threatening illnesses in our families. Worrying does not cure an illness, and we can become sick from the worry. Once we decide to stop worrying, we are better able to handle the situation that might have been the object of our worry.

Put on a happy face. Have you ever noticed how people seem to want to please you more when you smile at them? To me, they appear to be more friendly and outgoing. When I realized this, I started to consciously observe people's reactions as I smiled at them while walking through the long corridors of my company's office complex. I discovered that whenever I smiled, the recipient of the smile would return the smile. This, in turn, lifted my spirits. As a result, my smile became more genuine as I met the next person. As you smile at other people, you'll discover that your smiles are contagious.

Look for the good in everything. I once attended a class given by a chiropractor who had developed an excellent chiropractic procedure, which not only included adjustments but also education on nutrition and forgiveness. During the class sessions, he discussed the subconscious mind and the fact that thought precedes action, even physical action/reaction within our bodies.

This wise Doctor of Chiropractic explained that the secret to recovery in many of these cases was forgiveness. Sometimes, unknowingly, we carry grudges for things that happened to us at some time during our lives. If we do some serious soul-searching, there might be people whom we have not forgiven.

In class, we learned the three steps of forgiveness:

1. Forgive the person who may have wronged us.
2. Forgive ourselves for carrying a grudge, whether it was intentional or unintentional.
3. Look for the good in whatever it was that happened to us. This is the most difficult step, but it is necessary for the process to work.

There were some people in the class who were very ill and had traveled to doctors throughout the country in search of cures for their illnesses. It seemed to me that I witnessed miracles occurring that week when many of these ill people were relieved of their symptoms. In following up after the class, I learned that, for most of these people, the symptoms never returned.

Know that you can do it. A positive attitude, combined with self-affirmation, contributes to success. If you continually tell yourself that you can accomplish your objectives, it will significantly increase the likelihood of doing just that. Many years ago after being told that she could not be a stockbroker in her company because she was a woman, one woman still knew that she could be a very good stockbroker. She changed companies and not only became an excellent stockbroker but later became a senior vice president and investment executive in her company.

Laugh. There is healing power in laughter. This power can heal us mentally and emotionally, as well as physically. Laughter helps to relieve stress. After a long day at the office, a good laugh will revitalize me. It brings with it a good feeling, a feeling of lightness, a feeling of joy. I also find it enjoyable to spend time with people who have a sense of humor, as it is difficult to have both a good sense of humor and a bad attitude.

Value other people. Each individual on this earth is a miracle. Each of us has unique skills, talents, and abilities. We all live in a connected universe and contribute to the growth of one another. We are partners in the creation of good for all of us. As we show respect for others as individuals, we, in turn, gain respect.

People are precious, even those people who seem to be cross or ornery and those who seem to stand in the way of our achieving our objectives. If we value them and show that we care about them as people, we might be surprised at the difference we will see in them. By adjusting our attitude toward them, we might just see a change in their attitude toward us.

A positive attitude can open doors to opportunities. It has for me, and it will for you, too!

The Key Is to Focus!

Recently, I read that we are living during a time of shrinking concentration spans and less focus. Wondering why people are focusing less now than before, I asked a cross-section of business people what they thought.

Following are some of their answers regarding possible reasons for less concentration and shorter attention spans:

• There are so many communication devices that interrupt a person's time. We have cell phones, pagers, call waiting, Internet instant messages, etc.
• We are constantly rushing from one activity to another, without a moment in between. This does not allow for periods of exploration in the woods, fishing, taking a walk, or just concentration.
• In our hurry-up world of fragmented communications, we have become accustomed to multi-tasking.
• The invention of the television remote control has enabled us to shorten our attention span.

Since we live in a fast-paced, hurry-up world, multi-tasking and getting things done fast are necessities of life. However, when we are working on a major goal, we need to set aside time just to focus on that goal.

Alexander Hamilton once said, "Men give me credit for genius. All the genius I have lies in this: When I have a subject in hand, I study it profoundly. Day and night, it is before me. I explore it in all its bearings. My mind becomes pervaded with it. Then … people are pleased to call [the effort that I made] the fruit of genius. It is the fruit of labor and thought." To this statement, I add that it is also the fruit of focus and concentration.

In today's complicated world, multiple distractions vie for our attention at any given time. The way in which we deal with these distractions determines how well we are able to focus on our goals and priorities. If you will take the time during the next 24 hours to observe how you handle distractions, you might have some surprises. During this time period, write each distraction as it occurs. After recording a distraction on paper, write a comment on how you handled this distraction. At the end of the 24 hours, review your notes, observe any patterns that may exist, congratulate yourself for the times that you handled the distraction well, and determine where you can make some improvements.

Following are some methods that successful people use to handle distractions:

• Set aside quiet time during the day to focus on your top priorities or action steps. During these quiet times, stay away from the telephone and other sources of interruption, allowing interruptions for emergencies only.
• Decrease the stress in your body and your mind by practicing relaxation exercises before you start focusing on a priority or action step.
• Keep a piece of paper and a pen at hand while you are concentrating on a project or task. When an unrelated thought enters your mind, write it down. These thoughts can be reviewed at a later time.
• Periodically during the next month, repeat the exercise of recording your distractions and the methods that you use to deal with them. Note the progress that you are making in this area.

Before the 1993 Superbowl, Dallas Cowboys coach Jimmy Johnson gave his team a pep talk. He told them that, if he laid a two-by-four plank on the floor, each of them would walk across it and not fall. The reason for this would be that their focus would be on walking the plank. "But if I put the same two-by-four ten stories high between two buildings," said Johnson, "only a few would make it." This would be because the focus would be on falling. He told his team not to focus on the crowd, the media, or the possibility of losing. Instead, they were to focus on each play of the game, just as if it were a good practice session. The Dallas Cowboys won the game 52 to 17.

If we focus on winning, we will win. If we focus on accomplishing our goals, we will accomplish our goals. If we focus on success, we will be successful.

The key is to focus.

Overcoming Procrastination

Abraham Lincoln said, "Things may come to those who wait, but only the things left by those who hustle." We build a foundation by visualizing what we want, determining our priorities, and setting goals. Once this is done, it is necessary to move forward by taking action. By standing still, we move backwards in this rapidly changing world. Action is a predecessor to success.

We all know this, but we sometimes procrastinate working on whatever it is that will bring us the most success. Often the most difficult part of taking action is getting started.

One of the best ways to start is to first develop an action plan. Writing an action plan itself requires action – the action of writing. Your action plan can be simple or complex, depending on the nature of your goal.

Once an action plan is in place, following this plan is as easy as following a recipe. The key is then to take the first step on the action plan with the knowledge that accomplishment of the goal will become much easier, once we start.

The following non-business examples will illustrate the process of developing a simple action plan:

Example #1

Jane's goal is to decrease the size of clothing she wears from a 14 to a 10. Her action plan might include these steps:

1. Visualize myself as wearing a size 10.
2. Tape pictures to the refrigerator and bathroom mirror of myself from four years ago, when I wore a size 10.
3. Consult with my doctor concerning the diet that is best for me.
4. Prepare weekly menu plans.
5. Make grocery lists before shopping for groceries.
6. Shop for groceries after meals, and buy only those foods on the list.
7. Eat only foods that are on my diet plan.
8. Walk at least 20 minutes each day.
9. Weigh and measure myself weekly.
10. Reward myself with a visit to an art museum or a movie, or by taking time to read a new book as I reach each five-pound milestone.

Example #2

John's goal is to buy a new house. He might engage in the following action plan:

1. Save money for a down payment on the new house.
2. Study information about local communities and determine where I want to live.
3. List the features that I want in my new home.
4. Visualize my new home.
5. Interview real estate agents, and select the one who will work best with me.
6. With the selected real estate agent, tour homes that are in my selected area, which have the features I want and are within my price range.
7. Revisit the homes that best match my selection criteria.
8. Make an offer to purchase the house.
9. Celebrate, and move in!

Although most action plans associated with your business goals will be longer and more complex than these examples, the process will be the same. The action plans have the following similarities:

• The steps are listed in sequential order, even though some of them are ongoing or overlapping during the process.
• Each step is measurable, i.e., you will know when the step has been completed.
• The action plans require visualization of the end result.

My last five blog posts have covered the first five success principles from my books on success. I’ve found that these five principles gain a lot of power when they are integrated. In other words, if your beliefs, visions, priorities, goals and actions are synchronized, you will be able to create much more success in your life. As when a baby is learning to walk, the first step is the most difficult. Once that first step is taken, the rest is easier.

Sigmund Freud once said, "Thought is action in rehearsal." I encourage you to rehearse your actions through thought, to develop action plans to achieve your major goals, and then to get started on following your plans.

Have you used action plans? How have they helped you in overcoming procrastination? What are some of the other things you have done to overcome procrastination?

Dreams with Deadlines

At the beginning of one of my recent workshops, a participant shared that she had never had a goal. As a left-brain person, I couldn’t imagine my life without goals. This participant and I were at the opposite ends of the spectrum when we met that morning. However, she later finished the workshop very excited about the three major goals she had written during the session.

I have discovered that, although most successful people are visionaries and intentional dreamers, they are also stable and goal-oriented. As Harvey Mackay cited, “A goal is a dream with a deadline.” Most successful people have written goals. They communicate their goals, visualize the results, and reward themselves and others for the accomplishment of milestones.

The following tips have helped my clients to set and achieve powerful goals:

• Before setting a goal, think about what you really want in your life. Many of us set goals to do what we think we should do; however, we do not want the results enough to remain committed to the goal.
• Ask yourself if your goal is in alignment with your priorities in life. When a person’s goals and priorities are not in alignment, a sense of being overwhelmed, or inertia, can stand in the way of accomplishing the goal.
• Ensure that your goal is realistic and achievable. Many people give up on trying to reach their goal, because they were hoping to achieve the impossible when they set the goal. However, it is also important to engage in possibility thinking and to realize that you are capable of achieving what others might consider impossible. Give your goal some “stretch.”
• Clearly state your goal by describing your desired results exactly as you wish them to be. State the goal in terms of what will be accomplished and when it will be accomplished.
• Ensure that your goal is measurable by asking yourself how you will know whether you have achieved this goal.
• Write your goal on paper, and keep this piece of paper in a place where you can look at it every day. Fewer than three percent of all adults have written goals, and research shows that people with written goals are more likely to achieve them.
• Make a commitment to yourself to reach the goal, ensuring that you understand the effort that will be involved in doing this.
• Visualize the end result. Close your eyes, and create a mental movie of how the end result will look. In this mental movie, visualize yourself enjoying these results. Repeat this visualization daily, picturing yourself as if you have already achieved your goal.
• Describe the benefits of your goal. Do this on paper, so that you can read the benefits whenever you might struggle with doing the things needed to reach the goal.
• Establish milestones as mini-goals, and write them down as well. It is easier to work on one small step at a time than on a big goal.
• Develop and implement an action plan. Determine the steps that you will take in order to achieve your goal, and write these down.
• Communicate your goal to supportive people who might be able to contribute to its achievement, either through direct efforts or through encouragement.
• Reward yourself as you reach milestones along the way to achieving your goal. By giving recognition to ourselves for our accomplishments, we expand our enthusiasm and energy to accomplish more.
• Remain flexible. Although you will set a date for accomplishing your goal, there could be an emergency situation that you need to handle en route. When taking care of this situation is a higher priority than the goal, allow yourself to adjust your schedule for accomplishing the goal. Also, as you achieve your goals, you may change direction and will, of course, set new goals for yourself.
• If you make a mistake, give yourself permission to start again. We are all in a constant process of growth and development. We can use our mistakes as learning opportunities and become even stronger than we had been previously.

Your goals, integrated with your dreams, will enhance your success, both in your business and in your personal life.

Are you a goal setter? If so, how do you go about setting and achieving goals?

Creating More Time in Your Day

Throughout much of my adult life, I considered myself one of the biggest victims of the Superwoman Syndrome. I completed two college degrees while working full-time and raising two children. This might have been enough to undertake, but I didn’t stop there. It was as if I wanted to show the world and myself that I could do it all – and do it perfectly. I made great meals and kept a spotless house. After finishing the dinner dishes and putting the children to bed each evening, I scrubbed the kitchen floor (on my hands and knees) before doing my schoolwork. People would comment that my basement floor was so clean that they thought they could eat off of it. Weekends were my time to catch up with the things I was not able to accomplish during the week. I often felt guilty for not doing more.

One of the reasons that I was able to be so productive was that I made lists of the things that I needed to do. By following the lists, I didn’t need to take the time to think about what to do next. I enumerated the tasks on paper as they came into my head, but I didn’t spend much time prioritizing the lists. Since I thought that I had to get all of these things done, the priority didn’t seem very important. I would normally start at the beginning of the list and work my way to the end. However, the lists were usually so long that I rarely got all the way to the end. The remaining items would just be transferred to the next list.

One Friday evening, I made a list of the things I wanted to accomplish that weekend. One of the items on my list was to call my grandmother. She was my only living grandparent, and I loved her dearly. She was of Italian descent and one of the best cooks I had ever known. She would often call me at work to tell me that she had made spaghetti sauce and meatballs and that I should stop by after work to take this meal home with me. When I was sick, she would call every day to see how I was feeling. She cared very deeply for each of her children and grandchildren. She gave of herself and expected nothing in return. As I thought of her on this particular Friday evening, I reminded myself that I hadn’t talked with her in a while. On my list, I wrote, “Call Grandma.” With all of the many things on my list, I never got to this item.

I had a late meeting on Monday night, so I added my item to call Grandma to my Tuesday night list. Grandma died suddenly of congestive heart failure on Tuesday. I had never made the phone call. After all these years, I still often dream about making that call to my grandmother. I had always said that my family was my priority, but I didn’t live my life that way. What a difficult lesson for me on the need to live my priorities!

It was at the time that I lost my grandmother that I realized that I needed to do something to create more time in my day to do the things that were important to me.

Because of the importance of the subject, much has been written and taught on time management, life management, and self-management. However, most people, especially high-achievers, still feel the pressure of too much to do in too little time. There are many reasons for this, one of which is the need for better prioritization.

Many of us complain about interruptions in the course of the day that rob us of time we had planned to spend on the things that are important to us; however, we allow these interruptions to have power over us. We might also say that we have our priorities straight and then demonstrate otherwise through our actions.

The following exercise will help you determine how you spend your time. For the next two days, keep a list of your activities in either fifteen-minute or 30-minute segments, whichever works best for you. When you are interrupted, list the nature of the interruption along with the amount of time that it took. At the end of the second day, you will see how you have spent your time and the approximate amount of time you have spent on each activity.

When you have finished the time recording, prepare four sheets of paper by labeling the first “Urgent/Important,” the second “Important/Not Urgent,” the third “Urgent/Not Important,” and the fourth “Not Urgent/Not Important.” Now transfer your activities from your time recording, along with the time allocations for each, to the appropriate sheets of paper. When you have completed this, ask yourself the following questions:

• Are all the items on the first sheet (Urgent/Important) really important? If not, take time now to transfer these items to the appropriate sheets.
• Are all of the items on the second sheet (Important/Not Urgent) really important? If not, take time now to transfer these items to the appropriate sheets.
• How much of my time am I spending on the activities that are really important to me?
• If I am not spending the majority of my time on the items that are important to me, what can I change in my life in order to do this? This might involve scheduling non-interruptible time for important activities, learning to say no, delegating tasks to others, or just eliminating activities that are not that important to you.

Whether or not you have clearly defined your personal mission statement, you can still determine your priorities. The following steps have worked for many successful people, and they will work for you.

Determine your true values.
If you were asked to develop a list of your values right now, would they be your honest values, or would they be a list of values you think you should have? Keep this question in mind as you engage in this exercise. Start by making a list of items that you value most in life.

Prioritize your value list.
At this point, your list may be quite lengthy. Since long lists make it very difficult for us to prioritize our activities, I recommend narrowing this list down to no more than your top seven values. You can start by combining the values that are similar and then determining those seven values that are indeed most important to you. Although these values are all important to you, it also helps to list them in order of most important to least important.

Plan and prioritize your activities.
Victor Hugo said, “He who every morning plans the transaction of the day and follows out that plan, carries a thread that will guide him through the maze of the most busy life. But where no plan is laid, where the disposal of time is surrendered merely to the chance of incidence, chaos will soon reign.”You might have a big project that is important but not urgent. In many cases, you will not be able to complete this project in a day. It might require several days, weeks, or even months. In this case, you can divide this project into manageable segments and develop milestones for the segments. This offers several benefits:

• The project will not seem as overwhelming as it might have if you were to try to tackle it entirely at once.
• It is easier to concentrate on smaller tasks. The old saying that it is “easiest to eat an elephant one bite at a time” is true.
• By getting part of the project done on a daily basis, you are in a better position to complete the project on time.
• You are working on something that you classify as important.

Make time for your highest priorities.
How often have you heard someone say, “I just do not have enough time”? The truth is that they have the exact same amount of time as you and I do. The difference is in how they choose to spend or control their time and their tasks. To gain more control, it helps to ask ourselves, “Is this what I want or need to be doing right now?” If not, the prioritized action list will help to get back on track.

By using these methods, I have been able to create the time in my day to do what is most important. I’ve also discovered that I have more time to do the things I enjoy most.

By the way, I still make lists. These list get things out of my head and onto paper, allowing me to use my head for other things. The difference is that I now prioritize my lists according to my values and priorities.

Creating Success through Visualization

Dare to dream! Dare to create intentional dreams!

Walt Disney said, "If you can dream it, you can do it." I didn't realize how true this was until I learned about visualization. At first, I was skeptical. I considered myself a successful person and didn't think I needed visualization to become more successful. However, I decided to be open-minded and give it a test.

The subject of my test was my desire to sell my house and build my dream home. My house had been for sale for several months, and I had received no offers. I had bought a lot on a beautiful pond, and I needed to sell my house in order to start building. I visualized an immediate sale of my home to cash buyers who wanted to close and move in immediately. (If I was going to dream, I was going to dream big!) The following week, I received a cash offer! The buyers wanted to close in nine days and to move in on the day of closing.

My first thought was that visualization was almost spooky! My second thought was that this episode was probably a fluke and that it would have happened even without the visualization. As a result, I decided to test visualization more by selecting six additional things I would like to create in my life. My dream creations included material possessions, career advancement, more-fulfilling relationships, and increased spirituality. I described each of these in vivid detail before starting the visualization exercises. The visualization then helped to guide my actions. Within three months, all six of these dreams came true!

Ever since this time, I have been a strong believer in the power of visualization and have used it as the first step in creating all the major "wins" in my life. I understand fully what Henry David Thoreau meant when he said, "If one advances confidently in the direction of his dreams, and endeavors to live the life which he has imagined, he will meet with success unexpected in common hours."

In You'll See It When You Believe It, Dr. Wayne Dyer says, "Your determination to succeed is nothing more than your thought to do so. The idea of success is really the thought of success." In this book, he shared that his thoughts had always created his world. He described his visualization process at age thirteen. He spent many nights watching The Tonight Show on a tiny black-and-white television set. He pictured himself on The Tonight Show and practiced talking with the host, Steve Allen. He would actually work on routines, as he imagined himself being a guest on the show. In his mind's picture, he was an adult appearing on the show and discussing the things he knew to be true. Even then, he visualized himself telling The Tonight Show audience that we are able to choose our own destinies.

Dr. Dyer wrote Your Erroneous Zones while he was teaching at a university. He struggled for almost a year with the thought that he needed to go out on his own and leave the security of a bimonthly paycheck. "I had wonderful pictures in my mind's eye," he said. "I saw myself talking to everyone in America about the ideas I had just finished writing about in Your Erroneous Zones. I could see in my mind that the book was going to be very successful." He left his university position and began working his plan to follow his dreams. As negative people told him that he could not accomplish his vision, he became even more committed.

A year later, his book was on the New York Times bestseller list. His vision had begun to manifest! Within a few months, the book was at the top of the list, where it stayed for almost two years. Then one day, he received the "magic phone call," which was to lead to the fulfillment of the image that he had since he was thirteen years old. He appeared on The Tonight Show three times within an eleven-day period.

Visualization is not new. It has been used since the beginning of time. Aristotle said that the soul cannot think without pictures. "The reasoning mind thinks in the form of images … As the mind determines the objects it should pursue or avoid in terms of these images, even in the absence of sensation, it is stimulated to action when occupied with them."

Many visionaries specialize in teaching the visualization process to others. Depending on the visualization specialist, the steps in the process can vary. Although you will want to use the process that works best for you, it's important to remember that all of the various processes focus on creating mental pictures in the present tense.

The following process has created success for me in business and in life.

Determine what you want to create in your life.
What do you really want in life? What does success mean to you? What will you commit to achieving? When determining this, be sure to think of all aspects of your life. Include relationships, health, career, material wants and needs, spiritual growth, and anything else that is important to you. Make a written list of these things. Be sure to write the result of what you wish to create, not how you plan to get it.

Next, review your list to make sure that it is in the present tense. When you visualize, your subconscious mind will be working in the present tense. Also, make sure that you have written what you want, not what you don't want. When you visualize, you'll need to concentrate on what you want. For example, if you are overweight, don't write that you want to lose weight. Your subconscious mind will focus on the word weight, rather than the fact that you want a thinner, healthier, more-attractive body. In this case, you might want to write, "I am physically healthy and attractive."

Eliminate distractions.
Distractions come in two varieties: Internal and External. You can have control over both. First, you will want to eliminate the external distractions. Go to a quiet place where you will not be interrupted.

The internal distractions are more difficult for most of us to eliminate, but it can be done. We all have so many things on our minds that our thoughts will tend to wander if we do not discipline our minds to stay focused on the task at hand. Close your eyes and give yourself some time to unwind. If your mind wanders onto a trivial matter (or even something that is extremely important), open your eyes and write it down. Then close your eyes again, stay seated, and unwind.

Relax your body and your mind.
Most of us do not realize how much stress and tension is in our body, until we start to relax. If you have a favorite relaxation technique, use it now to relax your body before you start visualizing. If you do not have a favorite technique, you may want to try the one that works best for me. I simply tense and relax each muscle group, starting with my feet and working my way up to my forehead.

Once you are relaxed, you might start by visualizing a quiet green forest or a blue sky with one fluffy white cloud floating above you. You can relax your mind as you direct your attention to the green trees or the fluffy white cloud. As you do this, let all of the stress and tension leave your mind. This has worked very well for me.

Create a mental movie.
You are now ready to start creating your future through visualization and to put yourself on the path to realizing your vision.

At this point, direct your thoughts to the image of that which you want to create in your life. Picture yourself as if you have this in your life. The important word here is picture. Visualization works best in pictures, not paragraphs. In Control Theory, William Glasser said, "Most people do not know that they are motivated by the pictures in their heads and have no idea of how powerful and specific they are… The power of pictures is total … and when we change the important pictures, we change our lives."

Dr. Dennis Deaton advises visualizing these pictures as sensory-rich, emotion-laden images. He says, "The more sensory-rich and emotion-laden the images, the more powerful they are to the subconscious, the more quickly they are absorbed, and the more readily they are acted upon." In your mental movie, envision yourself using all five of your senses.

Reinforce your vision through consistent mental rehearsal.
Your first visualization session might take some time; however, it is time well invested. Future visualization sessions might take anywhere from one to 30 minutes, depending on the circumstances. I recommend that you plan to visualize your goals and dreams at least twice each day and that you keep the end result in your thoughts throughout the day. Through your thoughts, you are creating your life. Your mind will then drive your actions in the direction of your dominant thoughts.

As human beings, not only can we dream, but also we can make our dreams come true. Eleanor Roosevelt said, "The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams."

May you always believe in the beauty of your dreams!

Self-confidence can be learned...

Believe in yourself! I look at this as the foundation for success, not only in a career but also in life.

Believe in yourself! It sounds simple, doesn't it? However, the number of people having low self-confidence is shocking. I’ve discovered that even many of those, who appear to have high self-esteem, have times when they don't feel as confident as they do at other times. This is usually when they are doing something new where they need to stretch themselves outside of their comfort zone.

Someone I admire once sent me a note saying, “Thank you for teaching me that self-confidence can be learned.” Following are the suggestions I had shared with this person:

Think of yourself as the important person you are. You are a special human being. You are unique. You have special skills, talents, and abilities that are yours alone. And you can use your special skills, talents, and abilities to increase your own success and also to help others to become more successful. Dr. Dennis Deaton, one of my favorite authors and speakers, teaches that "you alter your destiny by altering your thoughts." How true this has been in my life! The more I think of myself as successful, the more successful I become. Never underestimate the power of thought.

Practice daily personal affirmations. In order to believe in yourself, you need to train your subconscious mind. Many of us have conditioned our subconscious mind in the past to believe that we are less than we are. The subconscious mind does not think for itself; therefore, it believes whatever is fed into it. If it hears negative comments, it believes them. If it hears positive comments, it believes them. Unfortunately, most of us hear, and pay attention to, many more negative comments than positive ones. That's why positive affirmations are so necessary. All of us need to train and re-train our subconscious mind by assuring it is fed positive thoughts.

Emulate self-confident people. Who is it you admire most? Does this person have some characteristics that you would like to emulate? If you decide to emulate some of this person's characteristics, you can be selective in the ones you choose. We can learn much just by observing people that appear to be self-confident. Another way to learn to emulate characteristics of successful, self-confident people is ask their advice. Most people love to hear that others admire them, and they enjoy sharing their wisdom, experience, and advice.

Reward yourself for each success. In a world where we have been raised to be modest and to not "blow our own horns," it is often difficult to accept praise or even to admit that we are successful. However, recognition contributes to self-confidence, and we can't depend on others to give us this recognition. Genuine success comes from within. It is self-generated. It is the realization that we are accomplishing our goals and our mission in life. Each of us measures our own success on our own yardstick. As we do this, we need to generate our own recognition. In giving recognition to ourselves for our accomplishments, we expand our enthusiasm and energy to accomplish more. As we are recognized, our self-confidence grows. Self-confidence builds more self-confidence, which builds more success. As we continue to reward ourselves for our successes, the cycle continues.

Surround yourself with positive people. Olympic champion, Wilma Rudolph, was the twentieth of the 22 children in her family. Weak and frail as a child, she contracted pneumonia, scarlet fever, and polio. As a result, her doctors had little hope that she would ever be able to walk. With the encouragement of her mother, Wilma worked at taking one step and then another until, at age eleven, she was able to make it from one side of her yard to the other. When she started high school, she made the basketball team and later became one of the starting players. With much hard work, determination, and more encouragement from her mother, she continued to improve her athletic abilities. At the Rome Olympic Games in 1960, she won three gold medals, set world records in both the 100-meter dash and the 200-meter dash, and ran the anchor leg in the four by one hundred-meter relay. She was called the fastest woman on earth. When asked how she had overcome her disability, she responded, "The doctors said I would never walk. My mother said I would. I believed my mother."

Not all of us have had the opportunity to live most of our life with positive people, with people who encourage us, with people who do not criticize us. However, as adults, we can choose the people with whom we spend the majority of our time. When you include more positive people in your circle of friends, you yourself will become more positive. As you become more positive, you will attract more positive people. By attracting more positive people into your life, your self-confidence will grow.

Look and feel your best. Most people feel better about themselves when they look their best. Following are some tips from successful people on looking and feeling your best:

• Wear clothes that are appropriate for the occasion. These clothes do not have to be expensive, but they should fit well and be clean and pressed.


• Practice good grooming habits at all times.


• Stand and sit straight.


• Get enough sleep to look and feel good.


• Maintain good health. See your doctor when you are ill, and have regular physical checkups.


• Stay physically fit. Aerobic exercises will help, especially walking and swimming.


• Wear a smile. You will soon notice that this will also attract more positive people into your life.

The better you look, the better you'll feel about yourself. Most people who practice these simple tips for two weeks begin to notice a difference. When people notice a difference, they make a habit of practicing these tips. As the habits are formed, self-confidence increases.

Fake it until you make it. Normally, I wouldn’t advise anyone to fake anything. Personal integrity is important to me, and I believe that honesty is critical to one's success. However, what I am recommending here is that you act the part of an extremely self-confident person. By acting self-confident, most people begin to realize that they can be self-confident. If people think of themselves as successful, they are successful. If they believe in themselves, others will also believe in them. The reverse is also true. By demonstrating self-confidence, even when they don't think they have it, they will become more self-confident.

Affirm those around you. There are not many people in the world who can't benefit from more self-confidence. I have learned that even the most arrogant and seemingly self-assured people often lack the inner confidence needed to really feel good about themselves. Even these people need compliments. In business, the most confident executives and managers I know are the ones who give credit to the people who do the work. In life, the most confident people are the ones who demonstrate confidence in others.

Self-confidence can be learned. Always remember that you are a special human being! Believe in yourself, and others will believe in you, also.

Surviving and Thriving during Change

Marilyn Ferguson, an American futurist once said that change was like "Linus when his blanket is in the dryer. There's nothing to hold on to."

During our lifetime, each of us goes through multiple changes. In some cases, we initiate the changes ourselves. In others, the changes are initiated by others, and we often feel that we have no control over the things that are happening to us as a result of these changes.

When I was going through one of the biggest changes in my life, I decided that I was not only going to survive the effects of this change, but I was going to thrive and become even stronger because of it. It was then that I wrote the following eight action steps to survive and thrive during any change in one's life:

1. Tune up your self-confidence. Think of yourself as the important person you are. Each of us is a miracle, and each of us has a mission in life and the skills, talents, and abilities to fulfill this mission. Take time to make a list of everything you like about yourself, and affirm yourself.


2. Take responsibility for stress reduction. Much stress accompanies any change, even change that we perceive as "good" change. Three ways to reduce stress are relaxation exercises, physical exercise, and laughter. Bob Hope said, "I've seen what a good laugh can do. It can transform tears into hope."


3. Focus on priorities. Ask yourself the following two questions: What are my priorities in life? Will this change affect me 20 years from now? This helps to put the change into perspective, so that we can deal with it better.


4. Use your emotional energy wisely. If we spend time blaming, complaining, criticizing, or condemning those who are responsible for the change, we are generating negative energy. This negative energy only drags us down, both emotionally and physically. Instead, if we concentrate on generating positive energy, we are able to deal with the change more effectively.


5. Look for the positive. Even though it may seem at first that the change has only a negative impact, we can find something positive if we look hard enough. (For more information on this, see my e-book, Success without Struggle™: How to Control Your Destiny through Your Attitude.)


6. Maximize your productivity. During major change, people tend to spend time worrying about the future. However, worry breaks down productivity. When we're not productive, we again tend to generate negative energy, and this becomes a downward spiral. Since worry does not solve any problems, I encourage people to spend their time in looking at options and alternatives, rather than in worrying.


7. Create your own future. You have the power to create your future. In order to do that, you need to focus on your goals, priorities, and alternative action plans for achieving your goals.


8. Take time to enjoy your life. We are on this earth to have joy. When I look at the word, "recreation," I see within it the word, "recreate." By taking time to do the things that give us joy, we are recreating ourselves, reinventing ourselves, refreshing ourselves, and renewing ourselves.

The French philosopher, Henri Bergson, said, "To exist is to change, to change is to mature, to mature is to go on creating oneself endlessly."

May you go on creating yourself endlessly!